If you are doing something for the first time it is absolutely normal that you may ask yourself if I'm doing it right or not. This may include speaking another language, riding a motorbike, cooking pasta as well as practicing Mindfulness.
Read the story of John, who started his journey of awareness and has some doubts that every beginner may have.
John learnt what is the mindfulness during the workshop. He decided to buy a book about mindfulness so that he could practice.
He was trying to practice regularly. After a week, the following thought appeared in his head:
It's okay. At some point there will be always a distraction, your thoughts will take you to the past or future.
✅ The moment you notice the distraction and return to what you were focused on is the moment of mindfulness.
A week has passed. John practices regularly and another thought appears in his head.
It is normal that at the beginning of practice you may start it with expectations – «I want to feel better», «Miracle is going to happen», «I want to feel the inner peace right now».
But mind training requires time. You do not lose weight after four days of eating healthy food or after five visits to the gym. Similarly, the practice of mindfulness also requires time and the effects wouldn't be visible right away. One mindful moment a day – for the lifetime :) and believe me the results will be amazing.
Continue your practice and soon you'll see improvements in the way you feel and in all areas of your life as it happened to me.
✅ The results take time. Continue to practice and you'll soon see the changes.
John had another experience after breathing practice:
It can happen to anyone. I also feel sleepy sometimes. When this happens don't be too critical to yourself.
Sometimes feeling sleepy is just a signal that you are tired and your body needs some rest. You can try to open your eyes or pay attention to your posture – sit preferably with a straight spine.
✅ If you feel sleepy during meditation, try opening your eyes. Listen to your body which may need some rest.
After the first few weeks of practice with the book, John noticed that the amount of thoughts has not decreased and sometimes he had even more thoughts than before.
That's great!!! Woohoo!!! It means that you now became aware of all your thoughts. Meditation is not about having no thoughts or having only pleasant thoughts. In mindfulness, we notice how thoughts appear and disappear and then return to our object of concentration: body, breath, sound or any activity we do in daily life.
✅ The sky is unaffected by the clouds. Your mind is unaffected by your thoughts.
A few weeks passed. John still remembers the practice that he made last Saturday. He felt very good.
The more you want your practice to be one way or another, the more you move away from what it is at the moment. In essence, it is a rule that works in our everyday life.
When something good happens, you want to stretch the pleasure in time. When something annoying happens, you want it to disappear as soon as possible. In mindfulness we accept with curiosity every emerging thought, emotion or experience.
At some point with regular practice acceptance would be part of everyday life and unpleasant events will not annoy you at all.
✅ The more we stick to the idea of how things should be, how we should feel — the more we loose contact with the "Here and Now".
John is a fictional character but his doubts and questions are quite real which appeared in my mind when I started practicing Mindfulness.
Keep practicing and you'll find inner peace.
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